To set up your first defense perimeter with your eyes, you want to employ the strategies of bouncing your eyes and starving your eyes as well as the tactic of taking up a “sword” and a “shield.”
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If you “bounce your eyes” for six weeks, you can win this war.
The problem is that your eyes have always bounced toward the sexual, and you’ve made no attempt to end this habit. To combat it, you need to build a reflex action by training your eyes to immediately bounce away from the sexual, like the jerk of your hand away from a hot stove.
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When your eyes bounce toward a woman, they must bounce away immediately.
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In our experience, drawing the line at “immediate” is clean and easy for the mind and eyes to understand. This “line in the sand” seems to work effectively.
So how do we train this new bouncing reflex?
For openers, the habit of what your eyes look at is no different from any other habit. Since experts say that anything done consistently for twenty-one days becomes a new habit, you must find some way to consistently bounce your eyes over time.
+ Arterburn & Stoeker, Every Man’s Battle, 125-126
This is a great reminder. I am having a much better week than last week. I saw you had a stumble posted a few days ago — I hope your back up. Know that I am praying for you. I am thankful for brothers that take the hard road of telling the truth to stay on His path.
Have a great weekend.
Craig
Cr@ig:
Good to hear from you! Yes, I blundered again on Monday. Made the mistake of going to another questionable website and then moving on to pornography.
I have been clean the rest of this week — although feeling a bit “slippery” today. But I just called an accountability partner and scheduled a call for this afternoon to make sure I stay on the path.
Glad to hear things have been better for you this week. You are part of my daily prayers as well.
+ D-Monk
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