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Practice Visual Purity with Other Women

To set up your first defense perimeter with your eyes, you want to employ the strategy of bouncing your eyes and starving your eyes. … Let’s first consider bouncing. You can win this battle by training your eyes to ‘bounce’ away from sights of pretty women and sensual images. If you ‘bounce your eyes’ for six weeks, you can win this war. … When your eyes bounce toward a woman, they must bounce away immediately.

– Arterburn & Stoeker, Every Man’s Battle

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But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy.”

– 1 Peter 1:15-16

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Live Pure or Die

Live Pure or Die

When you were slaves to sin, you were free from the control of righteousness. What benefit did you reap at that time from the things you are now ashamed of? Those things result in death! But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves to God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life.

+ Romans 6:20-22

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Leave no man behind!

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These strategies for bouncing and starving the eyes may sound rather simple. Maybe even easy to do. But they aren’t. Satan fights you with lies, while your body fights you with the desires and strength of deeply entrenched bad habits. To win, you need a sword and a shield.


Your Sword

I have made a covenant with my eyes. [Job 31:1]

When you fail and look at a jogger, say sharply, “No, I’ve made a covenant with my eyes. I can’t do that!” When you look at a busty billboard, say, “No, I’ve made a covenant with my eyes. I can’t do that!” This action will be a quick dagger to the heart of your enemy.


Your Shield

Flee from sexual immorality. … You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. [1 Corinthians 6:18-20]

You have no right to look at that or think about it. You haven’t the authority.

A shield such as this will help you think rightly about the real issues involved as you face temptation in your fight for purity. Satan’s power of temptation lies in your supposed right to make decisions regarding your behavior. If you didn’t believe you had that right, no tempting power could touch you.

+ Every Man’s Battle, Arterburn & Stoeker, 141-142

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One of the tools we have been given in our Purity Platoon is the Four-Step Fire Drill — steps to take when we are confronted with sexual temptation:


Speak aloud these words. “I will not sacrifice my purity no matter what! I will not sacrifice my purity for [name the temptation].”


Pray and ask Jesus to strengthen you right now! Ask Him to give you courage to walk away from the temptation.


Call your Purity Partner.


Flee the temptation by vacating the premises. (You should have a place identified that you can flee to for known times and places of vulnerability.

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The following comes from the book Every Man’s Battle:

Your goal is sexual purity.

You are sexually pure when no sexual gratification comes from anyone or anything but your wife.

We’re able to draw outside sexual gratification from only two places: the eyes and the mind. Therefore, to be successful in the battle for our sexual perimeter, we must block the “shipping lanes” of the eyes and mind. Beyond that, we also want to make sure that we have healthy, positive affections and attitudes in our relationships with our wives. In other words, we want our hearts to be right.

Your objectives in the war against lust is to build three perimeters of defense in your life:

  1. With your eyes

  2. In your mind

  3. In your heart

Think of the first perimeter (your eyes) as your outermost defense, a wall with “Keep Out” signs around it. You do that by training your eyes to bounce from objects of lust.

With the second perimeter (your mind), you don’t so much block out the objects of lust, but you evaluate and capture them: “We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (2 Cor 10:5).

Your third objective is to build your innermost defense perimeter — in your heart. This perimeter is built by strengthening your affections for your wife and your commitment to the promises and debts you owe her. Honoring and cherishing are your key actions in establishing this defense perimeter.


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